What is abuse?
Everyone has arguments, and everyone disagrees with their partners, family members and others close to them from time to time. And we all do things at times that we regret, and which cause unhappiness to those we care about. But if this begins to form a consistent pattern, then it is an indication of domestic violence and abuse.
If you are not sure whether this applies to you, there is a helpful questionnaire to complete on the Women’s Aid website:
Recognising that you are being abused is an important step. Where you go from here is up to you. You may feel you need time to think about your situation. Or perhaps you have already made up your mind to leave. Whatever you decide, your safety and that of your children is always the priority.
- Keeping safe if you’re still living with the abuser
- Keeping safe if you’ve left your partner, but are still in danger
If you are in immediate danger call 999.
You are not to blame, you are not alone and help is available. If you or your children have been affected by domestic abuse, there are a range of services that can help you and your family.
We offer 1:1 family support in your home or in the community, can help you access specific domestic abuse services such as Athena (see below) and a range of group activities within our own Centres.
Our 2 main programmes are:
- Freedom programme – a group for women who are at risk, have experienced or are experiencing Domestic Abuse.
- Community Groups Programme – a therapeutic programme for children of all ages which also supports mothers (this can be delivered through an age-based group in a children’s centre or on a 1:1 basis in school, home or in a children’s centre)
If you would like to access family support, get help with accessing Athena or other domestic abuse services or you would like to attend one of our programmes, please do contact us and self-refer via our confidential email
The Athena service, run by Refuge, provides confidential, non-judgmental support to those living in the London Borough of Lewisham who are experiencing gender-based violence.
They can help you to:
- Talk to someone who understands what you are going through
- Receive support with contacting the police
- Move away from the area
- Access a refuge
- Stay at home, but want to find out how you can keep safe
- Receive support if you are considering going to court
- Access legal advice
- Manage your financial situation
If you’re in Lewisham, call the Athena Service on 0800 112 4052 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Or contact us in the Children and Family Centres and we can help support you in accessing Athena as well (see above).
Other support and helplines
Report an incident to the Police on 101.
For support or to discuss your options call FREE & in confidence:
0808 2000 247*
*24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline.
Other useful helplines:
Broken Rainbow Support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people experiencing domestic violence.
Tel: 0300 999 5428
Support for male victims of domestic violence.
Tel: 01823 334 244
Working with male victims and perpetrators of domestic violence
National Victim Support
Tel: 0845 303 0900
South London Rape Crisis Centre: 0808 8029 999
Forced marriage Unit: 020 7008 0151
Karma Nirvana (honour based violence): 0800 5999 247
Female Genital Mutilation:
Southall Black Sisters 020 8571 9595
Domestic violence resource centre for Asian, African, Afro-Caribbean women
Hot Peach Pages email@example.com
Hot Peach Pages has a directory of domestic abuse agencies world-wide
For information and support with domestic abuse, sexual violence and drug misuse
Rights of Women (Legal Advice)